Full-Time Granny: When the Love for Grandchildren Becomes a Heavy Burden

Fulltime Grandma: When love for the grandchildren turns into a burden
I had always imagined retirement would finally be my timeto read, knit, stroll in the park and enjoy the things I never had a chance to do. Those fantasies vanished the moment the doorbell rang.
It was a Sunday, just before the autumn holidays. My daughter Claire stood at the door with her two boysThomas, 12, and Lucas, 4. She didnt give any warning, just a sudden request.
Mom, look after the kids. Were off with Julien for a treatment. Were completely exhausted! she said while helping the boys remove their coats.
But I thought there were no holidays right now! And what about work? I asked, bewildered.
Julien took three days off. Mom, we dont have time! she snapped, and they were already gone.
A few minutes later the television blared, clothes were strewn everywhere. I tried to tidy upwithout success. The boys refused the soup I had made because their mother had promised them pizza. I called Claire to tell her the children were demanding a restaurantstyle meal.
Ill order them a pizza. They never eat your porridge anywayevery time its a battle! Take them out somewhere, have fun! You yourself said they wear you out at home! she replied, irritated.
And with what money? My pension? I asked, outraged.
Theyre your grandchildren, not strangers! I cant believe youd say that! she said, then hung up.
For an entire week I cooked, cleaned, pleaded and endured. I truly love my grandchildren. Yet I cant remain the freeofcharge grandma. The generation gap and my childrens lack of respect make it unbearable.
I gave everything so my daughter could grow up happy. Now all I get are accusations. Dont we elders deserve a little peace? Why does everyone act as if our lives have lost any worth?
Well, Im done staying silent.