Full-Time Granny: When the Love for Grandchildren Becomes a Heavy Burden

Fulltime Grandma: When Love for Grandchildren Turns into a Burden
I had always imagined retirement would finally be my timeto read, knit, stroll in the park and enjoy the activities I never had a chance to pursue. Those dreams vanished the moment the doorbell rang.
It was a Sunday, just before the autumn break. My daughter Claire stood at the entrance with her two boysThomas, 12, and Lucas, 4without warning or explanation.
Mom, look after the kids. Were heading off with Julien for a retreat. Were totally exhausted! she said while helping the boys shed their coats.
I thought there were no holidays now! What about work? I asked, bewildered.
Julien took three days off. Mom, we dont have time! she replied, and they were already gone.
A few minutes later the television blared, clothes were scattered everywhere, and my attempts to tidy up proved futile. The boys refused the soup I had made because their mother had promised them pizza. I called Claire to tell her the children were demanding a restaurantstyle meal.
Ill order them a pizza. They never eat your mush anywayevery time its a battle! Take them somewhere, have fun! You yourself say they wear you out at home! she snapped, irritated.
And with what money? My pension? I retorted, outraged.
Theyre your grandchildren, not strangers! I cant believe youd say that! she shot back before hanging up.
For an entire week I cooked, cleaned, begged, and endured. I truly love my grandchildren, but I cant remain the freeofcharge grandma forever. The age gap and my childrens lack of respect have made the situation unbearable.
I gave everything so my daughter could grow up happy, and now Im met only with accusations. Dont we elders deserve a little peace? Why does everyone act as if our lives have lost all value?
Well, Im done keeping silent.