My motherinlaw has decided to move into my home and give her apartment to her daughter.
My husband, François, grew up in a large family. My motherinlaw had children until her daughter was born. Its an odd strategy, but Im not in a position to judge.
When I married, I felt fortunate. François appeared responsible, courageous and strong. He understood what a family should be, yet he couldnt break away from his mother and his sister. If his mother didnt especially care for her sons, she always put her daughters welfare first.
Chloé was ten when I first met her. At first she didnt trouble me, but five years later the situation deteriorated. She refused to study, kept odd company, and my husband had to step in to support her education. My motherinlaw could call in the middle of the night asking him for help.
I hoped Chloé would grow up, marry, and that everything would be fine. It didnt turn out that way! When she found a boyfriend, my motherinlaw demanded that her sons pay for the wedding because she had no money. Chloés fiancé came from a modest background, so the young couple had to live with my motherinlaw.
She then realized they were having trouble living together. She came up with the perfect solution: move into our house and leave the flat to her daughter. It didnt matter that I bought the property with my hardearned money while my husband contributed nothing. The surprising part is that he is also pleased with this plan. He claims his mother will relieve us of household chores.
We own a threeroom apartment, but I dont want to sacrifice comfort or share my living space. My motherinlaw is convinced we have a duty to welcome her because my husband, as the eldest, must care for his parents.
I love my husband and Im not considering divorce. But how do I talk to him about this? How can I explain that living with his mother is a nightmare? Any advice?
